Erika Abrahamian is the teacher and she begins with a talk. This morning, she shares with us that she's been practicing along with another teacher's video, filmed in a live class, and has noticed some important citta, or mind-stuff, that she'd like us to be aware of in our own practices. We have certain expectations about our practice, our bodies and our abilities, she explains, and when she followed this video, she felt those expectations come up. The teacher in her video took his time explaining the details of how to get into each pose - sometimes this was several breaths, and then he would begin counting the breaths to remain in the pose; it was much longer than Erika was used to, and her mind presented her with lots of resistance.
I left the room feeling very humbled. I navigated through the crowd of people and collected my things, then paused to check my messages...
22 years ago, someone who abused me as a child had begun the process of reaching out to make amends. My grandmother was sick at the time, and I was filled with resistance about her cancer. I had no time to accept the offering from this man - no matter how real and heartfelt it may have been. He left his amends letter for me at my grandmother's house and I tore it up, unseen. There was a story in my head, one that cast this man as the monster and me as the victim, and I resisted letting that story go. Over the years, he has reached out several other times, and each time I resisted. Two years ago, after doing some very intense therapy, I decided to rewrite the story. I let go of the mantle of victim and I peeled off his monster's mask. I reached out to him. I sent him a message that said I forgave him and wished him well.
I heard nothing until today.
When I looked at my messages, I didn't recognize the name at first. And then I realized who it was from. The communication I sent two years ago finally reached him. He replied back with grace and love, and the bricks of resistance I had built up around my heart were gone.
Breath by breath. Step by step. Thought by thought. Moment by moment. Practice by practice.
Om guru bramha;
Guru devo maheshwara;
Guru sak shat;
I bow to my gurus and offer my efforts; to the guru that is this life; to the guru that is this path; to the guru who entrusts me with the hardships and the uncertainties on this journey; to the guru who sits within, who sits nearby and who lives without; and to the guru who is beyond all of this, who is formless and supreme; I offer my efforts.
Thank you to my gurus: to the painful childhood memories, to my own mind who clings, to my teachers along this path, and to the breath that I have the privilege to breathe.